What is it that you're doing with your energy? Are you getting done the things you say you want to do for yourself, or are you distracted by the demands from others?
We say we want more time and energy but what if what we really want is less demand for our attention. We can't always be available, and that should be okay. If you're being pulled away from your self-care plans the onus is on you to say no and turn to your needs. It's not that your friends, job or family don't care about you but if they don't see that you care - truly care - then why should they?
Remember, your well-being is important if you want to continue (lovingly) being there for those who matter most. Let them see that you care as much about yourself as you do about them. Teach them how to honor their needs by being a good example of someone who manages stress and stays on top of diet, sleep, hydration, and exercise.
Be honest with yourself. If you had more time and energy would you really spend on it yourself or others?
Remembering and Not Forgetting as the flashy posters state is easier for some than others
Each time, I want to express sorrow without my belly tightening
Each time, I want to say sorry to those who hurt and thanks to those who helped without my throat closing
Each time, I want to communicate my experience as clearly as it is in my head - complete with the smells, screams, rage, and fears that engulfed the day, but my heart is squeezed too tight and I lose the ability to breathe
Instead I pray for healing
I pray for greater wisdom
I pray for those affected, known and unknown
I pray so that my throat opens, my belly relaxes and my heart feels free again
I pray so that I may continue to do my part to help others heal
I pray that we may do that which honors the inherent worth and dignity of all human beings
I pray that we may do what we can to serve all sentient beings
I pray that we may dismiss the notion of Other
I pray so that we may see ourselves in Each-Other
I pray so that hate is washed by Love
I pray most times not on my knees and hands together but in seeing light in darkness and sending love where it is needed
I pray that we may give less glory to those stuck in their darkness and shine more light to those that do good
I pray to send more Hope into the energy field
Hope is the fuel that sustains loving action
Prayer is the practice
Let us pray to remember the causes and triggers
Let us pray for the strength and wisdom to do all that we can to avoid repeats
Remembering isn't enough
One way to understand energy is to recognize how we affect each other. When our antennas are focused on something that we know will help another it's really because we also need it. So, what you repeatedly insist on for other people is something you need to focus on for yourself. They may not be ready for your message, but your awareness is evidence that you are.
You'll also see that subject of your focus pop up in other ways, further reinforcing the energy for you.
Currently, my focus is on fermented foods. I've advised some clients (and nagged loved ones) to eat more of a variety because I sensed their usual fermented favorites were not serving them anymore.
Recently, I got a batch of idli from a good friend and I felt like my body really needed it. I was reminded that with each season we should re-evaluate our self-care practice, including diet, and check in with ourselves to notice the quality of our mental, emotional and physical states. You can only do so much (actually, a lot) energetically but it's your daily practice that will really make the difference between maintaining good health or struggling for some semblance of it.
Tune in to your own energy, which includes your words and reactions, and take note of the patterns. Ask yourself if you might need that thing you've been frequently advising (ok, nagging) others about. Don't worry if they're not listening. Demonstrate wisdom by taking your own sage advice.