If you're struggling to find more energy, you might be surprised to learn that you're probably draining yourself of the precious energy you already have. See if you might be stuck in any one or more of these patterns below and follow the tips to restore your energy and improved your quality of life.
Here are 3 typical energy-draining patterns and what to do instead to untangle them.
1. Worry about things you cannot control.
Worry falls under the Unproductive Stress category. The bus is late, the traffic is heavy, or that thing that hasn't yet happened is sure to be tragic, etc. None of these are worth compromising your health for. The next time your eyebrows crinkle and you feel that familiar tension in your belly and/or chest, STOP! Then ask yourself, "If I can't control this situation, how can I control the way I feel about it?"
Do this instead: Take 5-10 belly breaths. Breathing is a reliable anchor, always there to remind you to get out of your head, move into your body and be present. That experience is what you CAN control.
2. Being overly critical.
Marshall Rosenberg, founder of the peace organization, Non-Violent Communication once said, "Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need."
If you default to criticism, it's time to put a stop to it. Not only is it draining your energy, it's reinforcing the illusion that you are separate from those in which you find fault. You've heard it before, we're all connected. What we put out comes back. Before you pass judgement and assign negative labels, ask yourself, "How am I being a better example?" Then, remove the behavior from the person. We all do stupid things. If you want others to be more compassionate and understanding, you must demonstrate the same. Be the change.
Do this instead: Focus on their strengths. If you can't find any, focus on yours. If this is difficult, refer to #1. Another thing to remember is that the more unsettled we are in ourselves, the more we separate ourselves from others. Criticism is a sign of such a separation.
3. Become a member of the ICC (I Can't Club).
This exclusive club is full of people doing, you guessed it, not a darn thing. There is a lot of #1 and #2 going on and not a whole lot more. You can see it in their posture, slumped with shoulders forward, sunken chest and frown wrinkles. Somehow, at some point they were told, "you can't". And they believed it. Not only that, they assigned that command to other tasks they felt unworthy of accomplishing. The value of their efforts dissolve with each "I can't". It's a broken record that keeps them in the club and stops abundance, joy, and creative energy from ever reaching them. If you're part of this club, it's time to break away.
Do this instead: Go to your scrapbook, journal or memory-bank and find the things you have accomplished. Look for your successes, your wins, however menial they may seem. Your energy mattered then as it does now. Be a beacon of playful curiosity and creativity, and practice replacing I can't with I Can!
I hope this helps you take note of what might be causing your energy drains. Practice turning around unproductive energy into energy that nourishes all parts your dynamic Self. How do you want to feel instead? It's up to you. Remember your energy matters!
To be the change you wish to see, you've got to feel it in your bones.