When you've learned to hide your true feelings from a young age, you forget what they are.
Your body doesn't. Ever. And you can't hide them from others either, especially not from those who care about you. Oh, it shows.
No worries... hiding your feelings is a learned habit that can be unlearned. Why would you want that? Well, once again your body will remind you that you do have feelings and those repressed, will express themselves into unproductive and unhealthy patterns because that stress has to go somewhere. More on that later.
I see it among well-meaning parents, by telling their kids not to cry, stop complaining, be above those (pesky) strong emotions . Act "normal", I hear. In other words, act like you have no feelings, ignore them, we don't want to see or hear you when you're not agreeable, or on our wavelength. Mainly, because we don't know how to handle those situations ourselves.
That's too bad that kids are shut down like that. It doesn't take much to see how that behavior can turn them into adults that have learned to move that energy through food, alcohol or other pacifiers for their emoting (human) selves. A major life challenge (or 3) - relationship shifts, moves, job changes, etc. may turn their bodies into high gear, chock full of emotions of all sorts (like the ones you weren't safe to feel way back when) and health issues to boot due to the tear in their safety net. But still no words or healthy outlets to help express what they really need.
No answers to the why in their hearts, or the reasons why certain feelings trigger patterns that are clearly not serving them.
There's hope. Through intention first, then mindful tools, the why can be answered and life can finally move on. Life can finally move on.
To be the change you wish to see, you've got to feel it in your bones.